Cognitive therapy seeks to do a similar think. To find the mistaken assumptions in your mental processes, show you an alternative and slowly work towards interrupting that harmful cycle.

I’m confused, how does being aware of why you’re afraid – if it’s not for good reason – make you more afraid?

Though it’s all very well to figure out why we are afraid,so we can then attempt to deal with it in some way, ONLY breaking it down doesn’t necessarilly make the fear subside. For me, doing only this makes me hyper aware of the situation and heightens the fear.

I’ve always liked this approach to understanding and overcoming fear. It seems that fear is often more a matter of uncertainty than of the actual worst-case-scenario outcome. If one can envision the most dire outcome of an action, accept those consequences and visualize the necessary response then one has no reason to fear.

I’ve seen deconstruction used as a means of regaining control in regards to passions and desires as well.

For example, if you desire a woman to the extent that it controls your state of mind, visualize one particular aspect of her body. Mentally zoom in on that one desirable spot, as far as seeing nothing more than the pores on a tiny portion of skin or a few threads of fabric, and eventually you break down what had been an overwhelming thing into an understandable, controllable image.

If you’ve ever been captivated by a girl’s eyes and then had to get within inches and help her find and remove a speck of sand from her eye you probably understand this effect.

I think this is one of your best pieces of work. Your writing seems to get better if you write less frequent and i hope your keep your good work up. I always enjoyed your writing.

Even though i want to take a few month off after graduation.)

What’s great about de-constructing fear is that it helps not only for long term goals (musicianship) but also short term goals (daily interaction).