Books to Base Your Life On

July 11, 2008 — 15 Comments

I was trying to come up with a way to organize my books. The genre system doesn’t really work – it’s always about what the author wrote the book for, not what I use it for. When Alinsky wrote Rules for Radicals in the 1960′s he probably wasn’t thinking about the internet. Still, it’s the centerpiece of Internet Strategy shelf. I decided to label them that way, by what they’ve taught me, connections and what I applied it to. Things like “Hustling,” “America” “Evolution (which includes evolutionary pysch, some economics, sex memoirs) or my favorite, “Animals”

If there was a fire or I had to abandon most of my library, there’s one shelf I would grab. It’s the only one that matters. It’s my Life section – books with life lessons, advice, morals, ways of being. They could all fit well their original genres (non-fiction, economics, philosophy, literature) but to me they only feel right together. They were all consumed the same way, under the same guiding idea:

My advice is really this: what we hear the philosophers saying and what we find in their writings should be applied in our pursuit of the happy life. We should hunt out the helpful pieces of teaching and the spirited and noble-minded sayings which are capable of immediate practical application–not far far-fetched or archaic expressions or extravagant metaphors and figures of speech–and learn them so well that words become works.” – Seneca

So this is my Life section:

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius

The Black Swan by Nassim Nicholas Taleb

The 4 Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss

Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

Man’s Search for Ultimate Meaning by Viktor Frankl

The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald

The War of Art by Steven Pressfield

The Harder They Fall by Budd Schulberg

What Makes Sammy Run by Budd Schulberg

Letters From a Stoic by Seneca

Fight Club by Chuck Palahniuk

The Discourses by Epictetus

The Broken American Male by Rabbi Schmuley

Reflections and Moral Maxims by Francois Duc De La Rochefoucauld

The Alchemist by Paulo Cohelo

On The Good Life by Cicero

The Dip by Seth Godin

48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene

I’ve done the same with my Delicious account. I couldn’t tell you whats in half the articles I tagged “life” but I know that I absorbed something from each of them. I don’t want to be like that. THIS is how to think. Innovation or Exploitation?

I’m in no position to give anyone life advice. I’m still figuring mine out. But these are the books and themes I’m basing my life on. It’s working out so far.

More: How to Read Books Above Your Level

Kevin Kelly: Books that Change My Life

The Heel

July 10, 2008 — Leave a comment

“I knew the goddamn trouble with me, I thought. Enough brains to see it and not enough guts to stand up to it. Thousands of us, millions of us, corrupted, rootless, career-ridden, good hearts and yellow bellies, living out our lives for the easy buck, the soft berth, indulging ourselves in the illusions that we can deal with filth without becoming the thing we touch. No wonder Beth wouldn’t have me. A hell, she called me, a heel, the biggest heel of all. ” The Harder They Fall, Budd Schulberg

New Media Education

July 9, 2008 — 3 Comments

If you haven’t noticed, every Wednesday for a little over a month now, I’ve posted a short lesson about what I do. Sometimes they’re anecdotes or How To’s or links but they all relate to a collection of ideas that are slowly creating a new industry. An industry that it’s not quite too late to get on the ground floor of. I guess for now we have to call that new media.

When Seth Godin wrote about two simple web businesses that he thought might be lucrative, I laughed because I get paid to do both of them by multiple companies. Or if that’s not enough, Fred Wilson just tried to hire someone who likes to comment on blogs. That’s what I’m talking about.

Last month, literally as I walking into a meeting a total stranger emailed me an article about the person I was about to meet with. It had been published for like 20 minutes. The meeting was a total secret so they could have had no idea. I was blown away. I can’t even put a number on how much that email was worth.

But then I remembered, for the last year and a half I’ve been publishing every good thing I’ve come across for free. God knows how many times I’ve emailed writers that I like with pieces I figured they would like. It was only a matter of time before somebody returned the favor.

I sort of fell into it and got really lucky. Tucker sat down and taught me everything. But if he hadn’t, I would have kept doing it anyway, slowly figuring it out by trial and error. I would have had to do it without the benefit of somebody else’s toys.

So every Wednesday for the foreseeable future, I’m going to try and talk about the things I’ve learned and am learning. It’s helpful to me because I finally get to articulate them and hopefully, it can be helpful to everyone else. Later on down the road, it will all make more sense when the official announcement about this is made. If you want to get a jump on it, start with all the books in the Internet/Strategy section of my reading list.

Bondage and Freedom

July 7, 2008 — 13 Comments

“Nothing appeared to make my poor mistress more angry than seeing me, seated in some nook or corner quietly reading a book or a newspaper. I have had her rush at me, with the utmost fury, and snatch from my hand a newspaper or a book, with something of the wrath and consternation which a traitor might supposed to feel on being discovered in a plot by some dangerous spy.” My Bondage and My Freedom, Frederick Douglass

If you can for a second, think that the world is much like that mistress. The more you learn and the more initiative you show, the less power it holds over you. That is a very scary thought. A threat. Subversive. Not ‘totally subversive, man‘ but real, undermining, ‘tell me what you know about [name]‘ kind of shit.

My relationship with a major Hollywood player – a guy whose clients and companies you know – was irrevocably shattered by the books I read. The ones that piled up on my desk. The new one I carried when I went to eat. The research papers I print on the copy machine. An Amazon package, twice a week.

I was not supposed to know that stuff. What was I doing? What was I planning? Who the fuck did I think I was?

If you can understand that every bit you steal, every word you sneak, is part of a larger struggle. Each one makes you just a little more free. It’s light penetrating the dungeon, Douglass said. They show you the whip and the chain. And then eventually, the revelations weigh you down so heavily that you have to make a choice. Are you a Slave For Life or are you a Free Man Now?

They know that. They know whether you’ve been informed of it or not. So you might as well start to take the thing seriously. It’s the only job that matters.

And if you don’t like the story or the analogy, let’s put it another way: Douglass risked violence and death to read whenever he could, what excuse do you have?

Do You Deserve It?

July 5, 2008 — 3 Comments

A really well meaning kid emailed me yesterday. He just failed out of his first year of college. He was talking passion and philosophy. His email signature was one of those lines about mission statements in Jerry Maguire and when I replied, he hit me with the Tim Ferriss autoresponder (that he’s had for several months).

“Due to a heavy workload…I’m only checking email once daily.”

Alright dude, where do you get off? I know how hard it is to fail out of college. If you’re sentient it’s nearly impossible. It’s not about passion and direction and working a 4-hour workweek. It’s about accomplishing the basic tasks that you were assigned at a satisfactory level. Then you can start to talk about the other stuff.

School sucks. There’s tons of bullshit and busy work. That’s the point. You need to be able to master that. And succeed past it to the point where you can handle it on autopilot as you focus on the things that matter. What you don’t get to do, especially as a young person, is just pretend that you’re better than doing it. Seth Godin had a cool line about this a few months ago. If you don’t have an extraordinary resume, where do you get off masquerading as an extraordinary applicant?

I always try to think: Do I deserve this? Did I put enough credit in to comfortably debit out? That’s partially the reason for this. I’m a little masochistic but that’s me. It’s arbitrary standard but I feel like the way to stay grounded is to institutionalize the idea of questioning yourself and your status.

Hard work is not fun. It’s hard, actually. And without that as a backbone or a given, moving forward is impossible. Failing out of school, getting fired, constantly being passed up, not finding a break, etc. If I can’t get the basics right, where do I get off (deserve) talking about anything else?

Just a question I tried to keep running at all times.